If I Could Only Share One Thing With You…

In the end, it comes down to one thing.

When we get past the usual scapegoats like the economy, the rancorous divorce, being “bad” with money, the real reason many of us struggle to make money doing what we love is because we don’t feel like we deserve it.

It comes down to one thing—feeling worthy.  Feeling good about ourselves.

For me, that created a conundrum.

On the one hand, I longed for more money because I believed that having it would make me feel better about myself.

On the other hand, I needed to feel better about myself in order to be able to receive any money or opportunities to create money.

Welcome to my special conundrum cul-de-sac in hell.  Can you see me going round and round without finding the exit?

All my life, I’ve battled the gremlins that told me I wasn’t enough, didn’t have what it takes.  Epic battles!

Battles lost in spite of more college degrees, straight A’s and more certifications.  Making more money and collecting great art.  Marrying a great man.

None of that helped me win the game of self esteem.

(Ditto swimming with dolphins, living on a Greek island or climbing Mt. Timpanogas.  All futile.  I still felt like I didn’t deserve what I craved.)

None of the things I craved made me feel better about myself.  And feeling bad about myself just delayed my progress towards what I wanted.

Until the part of me that craved growth and expansion and dance and exploration and honoring the creative spark insisted that I get over myself and try something new.

I can’t say that I know what made me listen except that I was just tired of feeling bad all the time.

Oh, and then I got a message from my soul…skies parting, angels singing, all that.

And this is the thing I want to share with you.

If I couldn’t share anything else but this for the rest of my life, this is the thing I’d want you to know.  The thing that flipped the switch on my self esteem issues.  And on my ability to manifest and appreciate good things in my life.

The real secret is this:

Your soul chose you.

No one else would do but you.

It has a plan, your soul.  And it needs you to help fulfill that plan.  When it needs to speak, it speaks through your voice.  When it needs to see, it sees through your eyes.  When it needs to hear, it listens through your ears.

Your soul connects you to the Divine.

So, you are the voice and the eyes and the ears of the Divine.

And the Divine chose you.  Your soul chose you.

Everything about you is perfect and necessary for your soul to complete what it needs to complete for this round of its growth and its evolution.

Your body is perfect.  Your nose is just right.  Your parents and your children…deeply necessary for you.  The way you love, the way you move, the things you create in the world.  All exactly what your soul needed to grow.

Your soul chose YOU!

And it’s brimming with love and admiration for you.  Its cheering you on 24/7.  It’s ecstatic to have every single experience it gets to have through you.  Even the hard ones.  Even the ones that make you tremble.  They are all just what it needs.

You are exactly the person the Divine needs to grow and learn and play and love and experience this wonderful and abundant planet.  It needs you to be exactly who you are.

The Divine wouldn’t change a thing about you.

Not. One. Thing.

Big hugs from my soul to yours.



P.S.  Just in case you still struggle with having money, with having high self esteem, with feeling like you deserve all the good things your soul and the Divine want you to have, I share an amazing tool on my blog today that will turn this around for you.

Like, 180 degrees around.

It’s beautiful, it’s simple, it’s free and you can check it out HERE.

The Self Esteem Mind Map

I’ve been having fun playing with a tool that I discovered in Wire Yourself for Wealth, by Laura Leigh Clarke.

It’s a mind map.  And doing it really is like rewiring your brain for a different experience.  You can see the new neural pathways forming as your map evolves.

I’d encourage you to do it for anywhere you feel stuck or undeserving.

But let’s start with self-esteem.

Do you know about mind maps? They’re an organic way to capture ideas and thoughts as one springs from another, then another, then another.  Here’s an example:

Click on the map for more examples.


Here’s how you to it:

1.  You’ll need a large piece of paper or poster board.  BIG!

2.  Draw a circle in the middle of a sheet of paper and in the circle  write down the topic/theme that you are exploring or the title of the project that you’re brainstorming.  For now, let’s write “Reasons why I deserve more self esteem.”

(In future episodes, you could mind map “reasons why I deserve to make $ X,000,” or “reasons why I deserve 3 new clients,” or “reasons why I deserve to have a fulfilling relationship.”  Self-esteem is your foundation for feeling like you deserve all good things, so we start there.)

2.  Follow your flow as you draw bubbles around the central bubble.  Fill in all the things you can think of that you love about yourself.

Include things you like about the way you look; your accomplishments, talents, skills, successes; things people compliment you on; acknowledgements.  Keep going and going and going.  Don’t stop till you have at least 200 things and see if you can push through to 300, 400 even 500 things.  Wear yourself out.  Wring every bit of juice out of yourself until there is no doubt in your mind that you are worthy.

3.  Hang up your creation someplace you can see it often.  It really will be quite beautiful.  Look at it every day and remind yourself often of all the ways you are perfect, all the ways the rest of us are so lucky that you’re here, sharing space on the planet with the rest of us.

By now you should be feeling pretty dang good about yourself.

So, YAY, You!

And I’m curious.  What is one thing that you love about yourself today?  Leave a comment below and declare it to the Universe!

Money IS a Spiritual Path

A few weeks ago I called a local spiritual center and proposed a workshop on money mindset and learning how to receive. The receptionist hesitated. Cleared her throat. Then informed me that, as far as programming goes, they prefer to stick to “spiritual” topics.

Huh? It was a WTF/Scooby Doo moment for me. You know, the one where Scooby shakes his head vigorously, as if trying to shake some comprehension into his dumbfounded brain? While secretly thinking, “WTF?”

And my bubble was pierced again.

My bubble shields me from the collective “wisdom” that money is the root of all evil.  (Most misquoted Bible verse of all times, though I’m the first to admit I’m no Bible misquote expert,  Just acutely tuned into the ways we stop ourselves from receiving more money even while our souls urge us to expand in ALL ways.)

And I’d forgotten that there’s a deep current of mistrust of money that runs through our collective unconscious…a current that says you can’t have money and still be spiritual. That the two are somehow mutually exclusive.

Can we just peel back some layers on that misconception today and open ourselves up to another possibility?

Do let’s!

Let’s explore how having more money can actually propel us farther along on our life’s journey, if, in fact, it’s your desire to have more and make a bigger impact.

1.  Money is neutral.

It doesn’t have it’s own energy, only the energy we assign to it.

It’s the root of evil in evil hands. It’s the root of greed in greedy hands. And it’s the root of good in Oprah’s hands. And probably in your hands, too.

2. Desire is the Divine guiding you to your purpose.

The Divine speaks to us through our desires (which are different from our habitual cravings for things like cookies after dinner).

The deep desires that filter through the mindless chatter and that bubble up in times of stillness and reflection guide us to the places where only we can make a difference. They guide us to the people (or animals or plot of earth) who need exactly what we have to give.

If you desire money above and beyond what you need to meet your daily needs, consider that the Divine is calling you forth into a bigger role. (As opposed to listening to that chatter in your head which wants to save you by insisting that you’re greedy, which reminds me…)

3.  More money doesn’t change who you are, it enhances it.

It won’t turn you into a voracious, planet-ravaging consumer. Unless you are that already. Which I doubt or you wouldn’t have made it to point #3.

Money allows you fuller self-expression by allowing you to get past surviving and get on with the joy and freedom of actually thriving in this abundant world.

4.  Speaking of Oprah, money is really useful as a measuring tool.

It tells us how much of an impact we’re making on the world. More money, bigger impact. Imagine if all the wealth of the world were in the hands of spirit-guided people with big hearts and generous natures? WOW!

P.S. We’re not serving the Divine by playing small.

5.  Money touches every aspect of our lives, every corner, every nook, every cranny.

You can’t get away with not having it, so we may as well get right with embracing it and welcoming it and being willing to use it without feeling guilty or ashamed or like we’re leaving someone behind.

Spiritual life has evolved to include modern conveniences and our desires have evolved with it.

Why won’t we let our relationship to money evolve as well?

We don’t go a day without using it, thinking about it, making decisions based on whether we have it or don’t have it. It affects not just our career and business decisions, but also our relationships, our health, our environment, and, yes, our ability to connect with our souls and with the bigger Source, the Divine, Infinite Spirit.

Money IS power.  Woo Hoo!!  It’s time to allow it to flow into and through the lives of people like you who have gifts to share and work to do, work based on a higher guidance, the movement of Divine Spirit through you.

We are the eyes and the ears and the voices of the Divine and the Divine is ready for the collective unconscious to evolve. It’s up to us to allow and welcome and embrace that, so the Divine can get on with its work through us.

And, it just so happens, it’s going to take resources. It’s going to require money.

6.  Money flows when we flow, when we connect with source and say yes to following its guidance.

See if the Divine isn’t urging you to grow and expand. Do you need resources to expand?

Yes. Yes you do.

If you’re not sure what to do next or how to crack yourself open, why not start looking for your own money blind spots, the places where you stop yourself from welcoming and embracing more? The places where you talk yourself into staying small or staying broke?

Most of us need help to find those blind spots and blocks.

Consider scheduling a complimentary Money Mindset Breakthrough Session to discover what blocks you. Click here to pick a time to break through!!