Okay, what comes after you decide what you want?
What’s next after you declare you want more money coming in? Six figures a year. Seven! Passive income enough to work ten hours a week? Work that feels like play so you don’t even know you’re working because it’s so fun?
I want all those things, too!
Sometimes deciding what you want is exhausting. And it’s only the first step!
Now is not the time to take a nap, though.
The second step is waiting and it’ll feel like you got off the Mexican bus with the chickens and the purple fringe dangling above the window and into a sleek Porsche. On the Autobahn.
The second step doesn’t go in a direction that seems intuitive, so I wanted to share a secret about step two on the path to making the dream of amazing money come true. Or any dream, really.
Here’s the secret that puts gas in the tank.
After I answer the question, “What do I want?” and come up with a satisfying answer that rings true and that compels me to keep going, it’s the follow-up question that puts gas in the tank for me.
After answering, “What do I want,” I ask, “What will having that do for me?”
That question is high-octane!
Keep asking, “What will having that do for me?” and be curious about where it leads.
It takes you to a deeper place beyond the surface desire of more money or less jiggly upper arms or a lucrative career as a hoop dancer or a soul-mate that’s really a soul-mate this time. Or a safe trip on a Mexican bus. (BTW, if you have to travel on a Mexican bus, DO NOT Google “Mexican bus.” Scary.)
Going to the Promised Land in a Porche
That question—”What will having less jiggly upper arms do for me?”— will lead to the promised land.
The promised land is actually a feeling state that you are really craving when you say you want what you want.
Here’s an example:
Personally, I want to be be able to receive money more easily, specifically $10,000 over the next 30 days.
“What will having that do for me?” I ask myself.
It will allow me to take a course I really want to take. It will allow me to quit my day job. It will allow us to finish our kitchen remodel.
It will allow me to feel like I’m walking my talk, like I deserve to call myself a Transformational Money Coach, to feel authentic in my work, to feel real.
Great, you’re getting in there. Go deeper. What else will having that do for you?
I’ll feel more confident in my work. I’ll feel more secure. I’ll feel worthy. And, I’ll feel relief.
Being able to receive money will help me trust the process and believe that I’m always taken care of, that the Universe has my back, that I’ll be able to achieve what I’m here to do in the world.
It will ease the stress of me feeling like a fraud for teaching people about money and wealth consciousness when I haven’t straightened out my own money story, when I still have my own blocks I’m working on, especially that one that says I don’t deserve it, I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, yet. (Clouds part, angels sing. I’m uncomfortable, but this rings true.)
It will help me feel okay with where I am on my journey. And it will help me trust deeply that when I’m open to receiving, the money flows easily and effortlessly.
So what is it that you want?
I want to feel like I am exactly where I need to be now in my own journey to prosperity and I want to feel like my experiences have value to my clients. I want to feel okay and supported by the Universe. And I want to feel like I deserve the goodness and the abundance that life has to offer. I want to value myself and my work deeply.
Phew! Excuse me while I take a breath.
Ultimately, it’s really not about the money or the being open to receive.
And all those things I really want—to feel okay, to feel free to be who and where I am right now, to feel authentic, to feel like I’m contributing even though I’m not perfect?
I’m sure I can find other ways to start experiencing those feelings in my life even before I manifest that $10,000 and exploring those other ways might be a good next step. But we’ll save that for another day.
It’s messy, yes. And a little uncomfortable.
But answering the question—What will having that do for you?—gets me closer to my core desired feelings (as Danielle LaPorte would call them). And it’s given me some glimpses into where I might still be stuck, what I might ned to let go of to get to that feeling state I crave.
So, what is it that you desire, Sweet Pea? And, more importantly, what will having that do for you? Please let me know in the comments below.
Forever on your side!!