If It’s Easy, It’s Wrong

Do you mastermind?

I highly recommend it.

My mastermind group is small.  Five creative women who share many of the same philosophies about business.  We get together weekly to support and encourage each other.  We hold each other accountable.

Last week, I shared how much I dreaded going to networking events, but forced myself to go as part of my marketing plan.

I got some push back re: “forcing myself” and “dreading.”  (I might have said, “I hate networking!”  I’m usually careful about not hating on anything, but it slipped out between sips of decaf latte.)

One lovely lady pointed out (and the others agreed) that if I felt that way about something, I shouldn’t do it.  I could choose not to put myself through that stress.  Choose to stay comfortable.  Choose to follow the fun.

I’m all about following the fun.

When I considered ditching networking events, part of me danced a jig.  I saw the escape hatch open, and I was eager to jig right on through to freedom and relief on the other side.  No more networking events?  That sounded like fun!

But another part of me resisted the path of least resistance.

In my physical therapy practice, I tell people, “If it’s easy, it’s wrong.”

Meaning, if people don’t get physically uncomfortable–get a sore muscle or break a sweat–they don’t get stronger and more resilient.  They stay weak and puny.

If it’s easy, it’s wrong.

I heard my PT voice in my head and knew it to also be true about my marketing plan and growing my business.

When you’re in the flow of manifesting, things are easy and serendipitous and the path to your dream opens up like a magical yellow brick road in front of you, leading you from one miracle to the next, straight to your destination.

Except that it isn’t that easy.

The yellow brick road, your right and perfect path, opens up, yes.  But it will have bumps in it.  Cracks in the pavement with weeds pushing through.  Orange people.

The orange people make things interesting.

The weeds and the broken pavers challenge you, make you stronger, build your confidence, make you better than you were before you started your journey.

The Hero’s Journey

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Joseph Campbell wrote about the Hero’s Journey.  It’s the story told a zillion times in every Hollywood movie, and it’s our story, too.  We tell it every time we set a goal for ourselves.

First, we have a desire.  We set out on a journey to manifest that desire.  Along the way, challenges arise.  We face the challenges, and get stronger for having overcome them.  Finally, we reach our destination.  We achieve our goal or let it go.

In Hollywood, the movie ends here.

In real life, if we’re healthy, we always set out on another journey.

We set another goal.

We set another goal because we’re human and we’re not complete unless we’re pushing and striving for something bigger and better, more fulfilling, more rewarding.  We’re designed to keep growing, to keep setting goals and keep traveling towards them.  And we’re programmed to succeed.

If it’s easy, it’s wrong.  If it’s easy, we’re probably not growing.

Challenges are supposed to arise.  It’s part of the program.

In facing our challenges and taking steps to overcome them, we get stronger.  We grow and expand.  We come to know ourselves better.  We build resilience.

Our world expands and in that expansion we get closer to our full potential.

Getting stronger is uncomfortable.

Expanding into your power and greatness is uncomfortable.  Learning new things and forming new habits, testing new ideas and showing up day after day is uncomfortable.  Falling down hurts.  Getting up again is scary.  Growing pains are real.  And it’s all so, so important.

It’s all part of the process.

Things like networking events are our own personal lions and tigers and bears, oh my!    Scary and uncomfortable and so easy to say “no” to.  You choose.  Run away.  Or face the challenges and get stronger.

If it’s easy, it’s wrong.

Anyway, no one said this journey would be easy.

You know me, though.  There’s always good news.

Just because it’s not always easy doesn’t mean it won’t be fun.

The fun we follow happens along the way by the attitude we choose to adopt as we make our journey toward our goals and desires.

Personally, I love a challenge.

I’ve decided to treat this dread of networking events as a challenge on my Hero’s Journey.  I’m going to get uncomfortable and see what happens.

Step one…be an impartial observer of myself.

Next week I’ll break this situation down.  Stay tuned and we’ll explore some of the things  I might prescribe if I were my own client trying to break through to the next level of growth, change, ability to manifest, ability to shift and expand.

This is going to be fun.

And probably a little embarrassing.

Meanwhile, feel free to leave a comment below and share what challenges you’re facing on your own Hero’s Journey.  What is it that you dread, or even hate, that might just be good for you to face and get beyond?  Is it orange people?

I Know What Your Superpower Is!

Would you rather be invisible or be able to fly?

That was a popular icebreaker question when Superheroes retook Hollywood in the Nineties.  Sharing your own superpower fantasy took you deeper into conversations with strangers at parties than, “So what do you do?”

I was firmly on the side of flying.  I fly in my dreams, sometimes, and it’s magical and liberating and terrifying in that way that means you are leaping even though there’s no net in sight.

Besides, I didn’t need any help with being invisible.  Being shy means being invisible and I was painfully shy for years.  Until I decided enough was enough and started cultivating my own super power.

My super power is your super power, and it’s cultivate-able.  Like carrots.  And sunflowers.

I know what your Super Power is!

It isn’t leaping tall buildings in a single bound—like Superman.

It’s better than flying!

It isn’t slipping into a patriotic bathing suit as you twirl in circles, and, in a lightning flash, bedazzling yourself with a tiara, bulletproof bracelets and a lariat of truth—like Wonder Woman.

Though, tiaras. . .sigh.

It isn’t bending and twisting into any shape necessary—like Plastic Man.

Though, if you’re like me, you probably have had some experience shifting your shape to accommodate others.

Until you learned better.

Your super power is way better than any of those things!

And, you’ve been using it your whole life, whether you knew it or not.

Look around you now.

Whatever you see in your life right now, from the amount of love you have in your life to your degree of prosperity to how “charmed” or “hexed” your life seems to be in general, you created it all with your one glorious superpower.

And if you see anything you’re not 100% thrilled about, you can use your superpower to change that thing.

You can start this very second!

Blink your eyes like Jeannie or twitch your nose like Samantha and put your super power to work for good.  For your good.  For creating your unique and most magical life that feels like flying every second of every day.

You know this, my little Sweet Pea.

You know this and you’ve got this and you’re going to make the best of this news.

What you think is what you get!

It doesn’t get any more super powerful than that.

What you think about most of the time is what you get.

You create your own reality by the thoughts you carry around in your head.

It’s super powerful because if you’re looking around your life, your environment, your reality, and you’re holding your nose a little and wondering why things aren’t a little more shiny or sparkly or lavender-scented or good, the power is in your hands to change everything right this second.

The power is in you to change your thoughts!

Change your thoughts to affirm more of what you want your life to look like, cultivate and nurture those new thoughts, and watch your new life blossom and unfold to become this new life you dream of.

Everything you see happening in your life right now is a reflection of what your brain is doing 24/7.

Let this be an Ah-Ha moment.

The moment you realize your super power and claim it as your own.

The moment you choose thoughts deliberately, precisely and in alignment with your vision for your life.

Fly, Super Sweet Pea!  Fly!

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Is Always Having Enough Getting In Your Way?

Here’s a thought.

“I always have enough.”

Perfectly reasonable mindset to assume, right?

I thought so.

Until I realized that I always had enough.  Just enough.  And no more.

It was a sucker-punch moment for me when I realized that this was the EXACT mindset that was keeping me twirling around in the eddy while the rest of the great river of abundance flowed on by.

Having enough isn’t a bad place to be.

It’s comfortable.  No one goes hungry.  There’s a roof to keep you dry at night.  Four wheels to carry you where you need to go.

But having enough is invariably seasoned with a generous dollop of stress.  Worry that the roof might leak or the wheels might break.  And then what?  Suddenly, just enough isn’t quite enough to keep you floating if that eddy starts to pull you under.

Having enough is an incredibly common place to be.

We who spend time there keep good and abundant company.  I see fellow eddy-twirlers every day in my wealth consciousness work.

The first thing we do together is talk mindset shift.  A tiny shift in the way you talk to yourself.

A shift in energy.

The energy you need to frog-kick out of the eddy and into the flow of abundance.

What I prescribe is adding two words.

“I always have MORE THAN enough.”

I always have more than enough money.

 

I always have more than enough.

 

If you’re like me, when you start adding this little ditty to your daily thoughts and affirmations and visualizations, you’re first reaction will be something like, “Nuh Uh!!!!”

And you’ll have to talk some sense into that part of yourself that tries to be helpful by pointing out the obvious.  That, in fact, evidence shows that, no, you do NOT currently have more than enough money.

I like to offer evidence to my inner nay-sayer.  Show it places in my life where there is more than enough.

I show it the daffodils in the garden—twice as many as last year.

I show it the 20 preying mantis pods we found this year (up from 3 last year).

I show it the cache of a dozen eggs I found under the woodpile from a chicken that went rogue and found her own nesting site.  That there are enough eggs to give to the new neighbors.  Or make quiche.

I show it the pantry (so much food), my ipod (so much music), my sock drawer.

 

“See!”  I affirm.  “There IS so much abundance in my life.  I always have more than enough.”

And I do.

And since I started working on shifting my mindset from enough to more than enough, any time that nay-sayer part of me pops up and offers its “helpful” resistance, I can now just show it my bank account.  The evidence is there.  I always have more than enough!

What about you?  What evidence will you show your inner nay-sayer when it tries to tell you there isn’t enough?

A Morning Routine for Manifestation

How do you start your day?

Is it rushed and chaotic, or conscious and deliberate?

A month ago we rescued two amazon parrots, Sunshine and Pepper.  They look alike, but could not be more different in personality.

Sunshine is in a rush.  She zooms around her playgym (yes, playgym) like a hyperactive kid whose mom forgot her adderall.  She bounces.  She scrambles.  She shouts, “Robert!  ROBERT!!!!  ROBERT!!!!

Pepper is conscious and deliberate.  She moves like a sloth.  Sneaks up on you and whispers, “Hello, Pepper” in your ear.  Savors every bite of food.

Both personalities have their charms, but I think Pepper has the right idea as far as starting your day goes.

A morning routine that is deliberate and conscious supports your efforts to manifest the life of your dreams.

Screaming and scrambling like a caffeinated parrot may not serve your best interests.

Better to be sloth-like.  To have a plan.  A routine that reinforces your goals.

Here’s one I learned from a fellow Infinite Possibilities trainer, Leigh Daniel.  She credits John Assaraf, who appeared in the movie, The Secret.

First, know your goals.  Create a wish list for all the different areas of your life–health, money, relationships, spiritual pursuits, etc.

Next, spend a few minutes on each of these steps:

1.  Give thanks for what you already have in each area.  For example, say, “I’m happy and grateful for this job that pays my bills.”

2.  Next, in the present tense, say what you are grateful for that is on your wish list.  For example, say, “I’m grateful for my beautiful new home with floor to ceiling windows overlooking the mountains.”

3.  Finally, spend five minutes visualizing.  Act as if the thing you want is already manifest in your life.  Enjoy it with all of your senses.  Feel how it would feel to be living with it now.

If you want things to happen faster, spend more time on the visualization/meditation part of your routine.

Don’t try to get to everything on your list in one sitting.  Try rotating days.  Monday could be health day.  Tuesday, finances.  Wednesday, relationships.  Etc

As always, the important thing is consistency.

My yoga teacher used to say it’s better to do yoga for a few minutes every day than to do an hour of yoga once a week.

Words of wisdom we can apply to our manifestation practice.

What about you?  Is there anything you can’t start your day without?  Leave a comment below and let us know what has to be part of your morning routine.