What’s your signature story? What story do you tell every chance you get because it’s funny or poignant?
Mine involves pink hula hoops in an Alabama bar, but I’ll save that for another time.
We all have signature stories that we’ve told a thousand times to anyone who will listen. But what about the signature stories we tell ourselves, thousands of times each day?
Henry Ford said, “If you think you can or you think you can’t, either way, you’re right. It’s the thinking that makes it so.”
Those little stories we tell ourselves? Stories like, “I’m always late.” “I’ll never get a job in this economy.” “There’s never enough money.”
Those little stories are the thoughts that shape our reality. It may be your current circumstance. But it’s not The (capital T) Truth. Current circumstances, like stories, are fluid and changeable. It’s the thinking that makes them so.
Here’s how to change your current story.
First, decide what you want your new story to be.
Perhaps you’d like your business to bring in more money. Pick a number. How much more do you want?
Be clear–”I want $100,000.” Be clear, or you won’t get the results you want. Inconsistent stories lead to chaotic results. Clearly defined dreams pave the way for having the dream come true in the fastest way possible.
For example, I waffled for a long time about whether or not I should apply for PT school–it was expensive, hard to get in, I had to take chemistry. But the moment I decided I wanted in, magic happened. I found a great part-time job and a place to live near campus. I got a scholarship. I even had a Chemistry teacher who’d circle the room and look at your test as you were taking it. If you were on the right track, he’d get all excited with the thumbs up and the, “Yes! Yes!” If things looked bad, he’d arch his eyebrows and crinkle his mouth and say, “Oooooo.” And you knew it was time to reconsider your work. I passed! Best. Chemistry. Teacher. Ever.
The moment you decide, doors open.
Second, start crafting that new story.
This is the fun part.
It’s your story, your life, so you get to throw in all the juicy details that will keep your story interesting and fun to keep telling over and over. Besides, the more details you include, the easier it will be to recognize your dream coming true.
Here’s what I mean.
I’ve been dreaming of a new home. One with floor to ceiling windows in my bedroom overlooking a beautiful view with water.
When I went to Boston recently, I checked into the Hilton and they put me far, far down at the very end of the hallway on the 8th floor. Turns out, they gave me a limited edition corner room with floor to ceiling windows and a spectacular view of the harbor and the skyline and and an amazing sunset.
I think of serendipities like this as little winks from the Universe letting me know that my order has been received and is being processed.
Finally, start telling your story, over and over again. Replace that old story (I’m always late) with this new version (I’m always on time). Then PRACTICE! Practice telling it to yourself. Tell it to your dog. Your parrot. Whomever will listen without judgment.
The more you tell your new story, the more you focus on the thing you want most in the world, the faster your dream will come true.
I got obsessed recently with Stressless chairs. Do you know these chairs? Super comfortable, good for your back, a bit pricey. My obsession included:
- lounging around the furniture store,
- fondling the purple leather swatch (I LOVED the purple leather!),
- perusing the catalog every night,
- stalking Craigslist.
About 4 days after my obsession became full-blown, someone posted a Stressless chair for sale on Craigslist.
It was a bargain.
Because it was purple.
Get obsessed. In a good way. Tell your story over and over and pay attention to how the Universe starts to make arrangements for your new story to come true.
I invite you to look to your own life for evidence that the stories you’ve told for ever and ever do, in fact, shape your reality.
And I invite you to choose one story you’d like to change.
Then use these three steps to shape a new reality for yourself.
Decide what you want. Write a new story for yourself. Start telling the story, in as much detail as you can imagine as if the story were already true.
Try not to be gobsmacked the moment you see that purple recliner in your living room. It’s just the Universe winking.
What story have you been telling that needs a rewrite? Leave a comment below and tell us your NEW story so we can hold that vision with you.